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How to slow your speaking pace in tense meetings
A few cues that keep your voice steady and your thoughts clear.
Quick start (2 minutes)
If you are reading this in a real moment (before a meeting, mid‑slump, post‑work), do not try to absorb everything. Use the page like a menu and pick one move to test today.
- Skim the TL;DR and choose one line that feels doable.
- Take one slow inhale through the nose and a longer, relaxed exhale.
- Read one section, then apply it immediately (even if it is imperfect).
TL;DR
- Balanced breathing slows cadence so your opener lands at a calm pace.
- Releasing jaw and shoulder tension keeps the slower pace from sounding forced.
- Practicing the first sentence with pauses bakes in thoughtful space.
Why meetings speed everything up
A charged room accelerates breath, thoughts, and words. Before you walk in, run a short stack that slows cadence, rounds out tone, and keeps your brain online when tough questions land.
Most “talk slower” advice fails because it targets the symptom. Pace is mostly physiology:
- Fast breath pushes fast speech.
- Tight jaw makes words come out sharp.
- No pauses makes you feel like you have to fill space.
Three-move pacing protocol
- Balanced breathing (5-5) - Match inhales and exhales to an even five-count through the nose. When the rhythm steadies, your nervous system follows.
- Release tension spots - Unclench the jaw, soften the shoulders, and let the ribcage expand all the way around. Looser tissue makes a slower voice feel natural.
- Rehearse the opener with space - Speak your first line at 80% speed, adding a two-count pause at each comma. Silence is part of the message.
Finish by locking in the first phrase you will use when the meeting starts. Once the opener is ready, you can spend less energy worrying about pace and more energy listening.
A simple opener that buys you time
Use something like this (say it at 80% speed):
- “Thanks - I will go point by point so we can pause where needed.”
It signals structure and gives your nervous system permission to slow down.
Cues to use during the meeting
- Inhale while the other person talks. It prevents you from stacking breath debt.
- Pause at commas. A two-count pause is not awkward - it reads as thoughtful.
- One idea per sentence. If you feel yourself speeding up, shorten the sentence.
If you spike mid-meeting, take one longer exhale under the table. You can practice it with Extended Exhale 4-6 .
Mistakes that make slow speech sound forced
- Slowing words without releasing tension. Do a quick Micro-Release first.
- Trying to slow down everywhere. Anchor the opener; the rest follows.
- Holding the breath. A steady Coherent 5-5 rhythm trains calm cadence.
Routine recap
- Coherent (5-5) - 3-5 min - 18-30 cycles
- Extended Exhale (2x exhale) - 3 rounds - soften the edges
- Speaking Pace Rehearsal - 1 min - practice your opener with pauses
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